GREEN LIVING: Christmas and connection

Wow, here we are in the manic lead up to the holidays again. It’s been an incredibly hard year for lots of people, with economic, social and humanitarian challenges affecting us in different ways. I took a little break (thanks to editor Ciara for her understanding), as it’s now been just over a year since my younger brother died unexpectedly, and it’s been a massive feat to keep waking up and doing all the things I used to enjoy.
What does this have to do with sustainable living? It’s become really clear to me, as I have experienced loss and watched other loved ones suffer it too, that in the hardest times we all crave more connection, with our fellow humans, animals and nature. In the moments I have found it hardest to function, the only relief has come from getting out and going for a walk with a friend, or admiring a small cluster of trees planted in my brother’s memory, or simply taking in the sky, the waves washing onto shore, or the myriad tiny plants and creatures that go about their lives as part of the ecosystem that sustains us.
As we approach the holiday season, let’s all consider, then, how much our preparations are likely to bring us the connection that truly sustains us. This includes finding ways to stay centred and calm throughout December, and taking time to enjoy moments each day instead of only focusing on parties or the big celebrations.
Part of this requires proactively communicating with the people around us to agree on what actually makes the holiday season special.
Traditions are fantastic when everyone feels included and happy with them, but sometimes changes can be welcome. In our extended family, we keep the traditional dinner on Christmas Day, but we arrive with an elaborate spread of breads, vegetarian dips, Irish cheeses and charcuterie for Christmas Eve, to cut down on the overall food prep. We keep the decorations minimal – some beeswax candles and greenery from our garden, which can be composted after use, and the same old favourites from many years past.
We also ensure we are clear on the gifting expectations, to avoid any awkwardness and especially to ensure that we are not missing the mark. As adults, it’s easy to make decisions about foregoing gifts, or donating to charity in lieu of gifts, or even agreeing to avoid surprises and stick to a list of things that people actually want and will use.
For kids, gifts of experiences can be an excellent way to avoid waste, and to allow them to make memories throughout the year. Last year we gave our kids a set of vouchers from us, providing for trips to the cinema, their favourite restaurants and one-on-one time with each parent. The gift of quality time is an excellent option for everyone we care about, though, and can really make a difference to our mental health and wellbeing overall.